Help? How?

So you want help but you can’t find help. You tried to help but they don’t want your help.

What’s our deal, anyway? I’m on this adventure of being a Jesus follower, learning about Kingdom living, my eyes ever adjusting to seeing God in the present. Community living, being one with the Father, is still pretty new for me.

I know in the growing that Life Emerges and I start to mature. Lately, I am contemplating what help looks like. The giving and the receiving. It takes vulnerability to ask for help. And help doesn’t always come in the way we expect – or want. So is that help? And when we are “helping” others are we really helping?

Every situation is different for sure. But as the Body of Christ I think we have some things to learn.  I don’t have answers but lets talk about it.  Share some ideas & experience. We both can learn more, right?  I’d let you go first but…well…anyway. Here is my random thoughts this week:

  • Be specific when you offer help to someone. “Let me know if you need anything” doesn’t mean beans.
  • Listen! Find out what the need is. Be a friend. Don’t be a fixer.
  • If someone is vulnerable enough to ask you for a favor be dead honest with them. No, I don’t want to help in that way. Or I can’t do that right now.
  • Let them know WHAT you CAN do…even it is nothing at that time.
  • Be realistic when you ask for help. One person isn’t your end all solution.
  • Learn to see what God might bring you in the way of help. Open your eyes. Then give thanks.
  • Remember God is in the undone and the messy not just the organized & tidy.
  • Know one anthers strengths and remind them.  Sometimes we are a bridge to finding the help for one anther.
  • Remember the little things. Life Emerges in the little grains of this garden of living. Remember the small stuff.

I want to encourage somebody with their garden & with raising their livestock. That’s where my heart is this week. And I would love it if someone to come haul some tables & chairs back to the church for me.  And of course, I imagine I would be giddy if someone asked if they could stop at the store today for me.

How can we help one anther?

Be blessed my friends!

Purpose of Marriage

As I continue my quest to SEE God I’m stopping to explore His purpose for marriage.  I know it seems obvious to most people. You see, I realize that just because something is familiar doesn’t mean that I have an understanding.

Photo credit: Joie De Vivre

When I determined that I wanted to understand God’s design, His purpose, see married persons through His lens, I knew it wouldn’t be reading how-to books.  Organic learning takes time, extra attention, and much listening.  It’s so real!  I never forget the things He teaches me this way.  He such a patient professor.

I’m only beginning to see.   I could be on this journey for a long time. Like rings in a tree there is always another layer to tell a story – a tale to reflect the bigness of the Maker.

So I’ll share some random highlights of what He emerged in me this week.

From 1 Peter  Chapter 3

  • Women don’t give way to fear  (Yikes! I fight fear frequently)
  • Hair styles, jewelry, and fine clothes can be a distraction (True…)
  • Hope makes women beautiful (Hope makes anyone/any creature beautiful!)

I don’t want to miss out on living my purpose. Being a woman may not be my eternal identity but for the walking it out in this life, the right now, I want to embrace Gods design to the fullest. It just might be that as I grow through this lifetime of feminine perspective my soul will grow and mature into the fullness of Wholeness.

Isn’t is such a curious thing? God creating male and female yet He possesses the characteristics of both! Oh I want to poke my head above the soil to see His Glorious Light! Life Emerging.

Dig deep and watch as He emerges in you, too!

Rich blessings to you,

Robyn Q